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Your book worthy of love on Audible comforts my heart , to put it lightly. Grateful for your book.❤

I was married to an evil Narcissist I haven't seen my only son in 3 years he turned my son against me got him to lie on me and say I threw a vase at him and went behind my back and took an order of protection for both of them had me falsely arrested pushed my elderly mom cause he knew that would trigger me. I had never been in trouble in my life tricked the system like he was innocent and made it look like I was a monster and he have custody of our son has me paying child support and won"t even allow me to see my son he brain washed my son so bad and told my son so many lies he acts like he doesn't have a mom it hurts me cause I know I was a good mom.I just married the wrong person now he took my son and moved away I don't know where they are we are divorced now.He took everything I owned he stole my apartment I had new furniture Ieverytime I went to my own apt they were arresting me so I left with the clothes on my back and had to start over from scratch Im still trying to recover from what iI lost So I had to give my situation to God and leave it alone.I pray everyday that God will open my sons eyes hes 14 now.

Yeh they need the mirror...insane..it wont leave my kids alone

No they dont. They hack your electronics. Slander and harass you all because you do not bother with them. Virginia Beach, VA is full of them.

I just finished your book. And I've just subscribed to your channel here. You just nailed my husband, the 'humanitarian' robot. I cannot thank you enough for giving me hope again. I have hoped to die for years. Married for 23 and about to be single soon. Thank you.

To Narcesist are stupid people

To me a Narcesist shouldn't even born at all

You are smart! very wow I am going through this period & wow it can be testing, especially for conditions of Ptsd but you know deep down inside, this is part of the healing Journey

Describes my wife to a T.

I saw you on Dr. Cs channel. Im married to a covert narcissist now and have been for 11 years now. He's the covert Christian narcissist. Please pray for me and my children.

Married for 9 years and dated on and off for six! About fifteen years! That’s spot on for me!

Eventually, the children will wake up.. Heal yourself and find peace within . Today and tomorrow and the whole weeks ahead are going to be beautiful. Nobody can destroy yourself worth... The narcissistic person will fall . They can't keep that mask up forever. People will see and they will be exposed. Your children will communicate soon just give it time.

I can't even imagine until I learned this today. This is worst like hell

With a covert narcissist it can just be how they look at you. Yes you trigger from all the previous techniques used to keep you mentally unbalanced. You have no rights. No voice. They don't care about you. It's all about control and using you for their needs. It's their way or the highway, I cannot adequately describe the interior shattering. Look at a box of puzzle pieces. All the shades, textures, unmatched, scattered, displaced cookie-cutter bits of a larger image. The image of your life. After the narcissist got hold of it.

My daughter attends dance school, she’s an amazing dancer. My covertly narc mother keeps saying “it’s not good for her to dance because she will not be able to have children in the future” 😳😂😂

Well then I guess I am blessed. Because he finally blocked me on everything and I haven't heard from him in 3 weeks. I also counter blocked him on everything so he can't contact me. 😂❤

Thank you very much for this ❤ i discovered your channel only recently and feel like you’re that caring listening friend who really empathies and understands … your voice and sharing is very calming. Thank u so much ❤

Reminds me of Psalm 23. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

My n mother did her best to alienate my father against us. She eventually drove him away. She bullied is, neglected us…the emotional abuse caused lasting problems well into our 30s. All of us have struggled with addictions, anxiety, no confidence, depression, physical health problems, you name it. She never owned what she did to our family. All of us were broken by her narcissism. Please fight tooth and nail for your children. Narcissism is insidious and evil.

Yes Inoticed early on, when i read books about kindness , empathy on my then toddler then , the narc would sabotage and encourage the kid to throw rocks on geese we see at the parks, or talk about food chain, hunting and just hurting animals , it bothers me so much, I fight him all the time for that infront of the kid. now at 5 I find myself drilling good characters on my son. My son gets it and practice it, he corrects his dad every time he hears unkind things the narc dad would say or think, honestly unbelievable to hear a 5 yr old tell a old narc to be kind or the golden rule. one reason I’m still not leaving. I know for a fact hell get 50/50 and will manage to turn my kid into a narcissist like himself and take him away from him. So leaving the nightmare to save my son. So for people who say just leave.. this is not reality for others.

In my experience of an acclaimed online course about somatic approach, there had been shared private information (distorted on the top) about me that had to be kept private due to the confidentiality obligation of therapist. These information had been been shared without my consent, publicly in front of many people and simultaneously recorded and being put in the platform of the The Brook Institute and subsequently sold. I had been publicly shamed in the live videos by Annie Brook. Annie Brook shared without my knowledge and without my consent some private information I might have been elaborating on in a private session with her that I paid for. She suddenly started to claim in the live videos publicly that I have apparently a mentally sick parent and this is why I am "CONFUSED" . Confused means less intelligent, possibly as well mentally sick. I wondered where Annie Brook had this statements from. Thus Annie Brook tried to shame me publicly with some distorted information that had the capacity to harm my reputation. Nobody likes to be shamed and told some lies about him in the public. These videos were recorded by Annie Brook and she must have been selling them to other people until today, more than one year. She has the videos available at her platform to anybody to see who has access to this platform. Despite me asking to put these videos down because of laws of private protection, it is assumed that she did not put them down. I asked Annie Brook to send a record of data she stores about me (she herself states this legal obligation of her in her website), but I had received no answer. Annie Brook seems not to need to follow the legal obligations. Further Annie Brook claimed about me in another video that when I am being bullied, it means that the bully wants to eliminate a weak person. As the animals naturally attack a weak member of the herd in order to make the herd healthier, so the bully does. Thus, in seeing this in this whole way, what Annie Brook wanted to claim about me publicly, is that this is proper to eliminate me. Eliminate like the animals do - which means to kill ? When I asked for repair, Annie Brook started to attacking me that "I am making this up " and that "I am projecting something" and " if I do not share her reality, I have nothing to do in The Brook Institute. Subsequently Annie Brook had removed my access to the platform I am still paying money for. I had pointed in an e-mail to Annie Brook some 20 points of misbehavior towards in those paid services. Annie Brook claimed that I am projecting it and it is a complete lie. Then Annie Brook went and changed her website and used my points, sometimes even literally my words. So her website suddenly showed that her therapists are actually not therapists, but coaches and are not registered nor licensed and are in fact just friends of Annie Brook. There showed up the information that Annie Brook helps folks with double binds and that she records the videos and that the purchaser has the right to ask her for personal records of data she stores about the person, the so called therapist who were hairdresser became a therapist within two weeks from my complaints. Her entire webpage had been rewritten. So, this is strange, when I was lying about the ethical misbehavior towards me, why did she made this effort to change her webpage so swiftly ? I have the impression that I had been chosen by Annie Brook like a animal to experiment on. She knew that I search a somatic approach, but she tried to implant some thoughts about me having some mental troubles/esp. apparently wanting to commit suicide/ in my head and she used all her stuff for it to do so. It is possibly not so often to get somebody so naiv, living in poor country far away from rich US, who has physical troubles and who has heard about somatic therapy, but never tried it before. It was probably very easy to lure me on the scholarship and force me to have sessions (paid by me) with her so called therapists (aka her friends as said her website later) and make the videos of me where she is showing me to to the others as an animal object, sharing many condescending information about me. Professional psychotherapeutic ethics does not say anything to Annie Brook, I suppose. She must know that I will have hard time to access the US legal forces from the place I live, with the money I have at my disposal and with physical disease. Good calculation. My first and only experience with somatic therapy had been very unsafe. All for my money I paid to Annie Brook. Thus as well, significant portion of money had been lured out of me by the fradulent representation of the work of Annie Brook.

Slowly the experience in this "therapy" developed into being attacked for wanting to ask a question/ or share my experience as other participants were allowed. I was literally not allowed to participate in the online courses and I was ostracized from the group. It was publicly shared about me that " I have no money, so I can do some other online courses" and much more. Once I managed to bring up my experience of a sick heart that I had in the past (the participants were encouraged to watch a picture of heart, so I brought up what my body needed to), I was immediately shut down in an aggressive way that in that sense, it does not matter what I say or what my body had gone through, that now I am in this group and I shall be safe with them and mainly, I have to shut up. I wrote an e-mail about this incident to the woman who did it (she was apparently a therapist accordingly Annie Brook, but in reality, she was a hairdresser, no therapy license). This lady responded that she attacked me because she does not listen to me at all and thus she did not care what I was saying. It was obviously a general approach towards me. She also told me that she does not listen to me because " I am speaking fast". It is quite a lie, however, somebody who is incompetent while playing a therapist can do lots of iatrogen damage and does not want to admit it. So, this person will invent any kind of justification to tell the victim why the victim had been badly treated and that the victim deserves the bad treatment. Annie Brook was so kind and offered me a scholarship for her online course. I had found out that were many people with scholarships (including the people Annie Brook wanted me to work with them as with "therapists"). I have felt very grateful toward Annie Brook. Annie Brook had written me an e-mail that I can get the scholarship, but only if I will work with a therapist who she is training. I felt obligated to do so because Annie Brook was so kind to give me a scholarship price for her online courses. The experience with the first therapist was was not that good: It took her 6 weeks to schedule a session with me. She was constantly losing my e-mails or she had to prepare for Easter etc. Finally the session might have been helpful as this lady seem to be nice, however she needed to direct the question of my physical sorrow that I came with into implanting into me these words: " I am in double bind" . Double bind is seen as a way of miscommunication, usually with intention to manipulate the other. Usually people with personality disorders use this deliberate way of miscommunication. It was as well forcefully pushed on to me that apparently " I am as well in power struggle" etc. Not sure what it should have ment. I wanted my somatic approach, I wanted an attention to my body. I wrote to this lady that I have the feeling that she does not want to work with me because she had these troubles to schedule a session with me. She responded (this time immediately, no need to wait for weeks) that I am mistaken and that IT MUST BE SO HARD FOR ME TO FEEL THE FEELINGS OF OTHERS and being persuaded that I know that they feel these feelings even thought this is not really what she feels. Another phantasmagory. Or attempt of iatrogen damage by trying to mind control me or move into some mental disease ? I had never given Annie Brook nor anybody from her stuff a permission to play a therapist for me, not at all to try to invent some diagnosis or mental diseases about me. I had told and written to Annie Brook that I search for a somatic therapy. Annie Brook had also never revealed to me what she is going to do behind my back. Later, I found out that Annie Brook offers a program for therapist who she trains. That was in the time I paid her money. Later Annie Brook changed it that anybody can be this "trainee". A coach, a therapist that is not registered, not licensed (basically anybody). I had only the information by Annie Brook that she trains therapists and that once she will train them, she will let me know. To my surprise the first therapist was a lady who did the same online course just couple of months before me ! However, I was not told by Annie Brook that these so called therapists in training often have no education in psychology, possibly as well no experience with psychotherapy whatsoever and if, then very little experience. The more, these" therapists" were not somatic therapist. The have just done the same online course I did....and in that course there was no somatic therapy. Additionally, these "therapists" had to negotiate the price with the client. I did not know it that I would be subjected to this as I had made clear to Annie Brook that I actually do not search for any therapist, I am only searching for some somatic approach for my body and if there would be any PERSON EXPERIENCED in somatic approach, I could only pay the lowest price at this moment. Much later, I found out that Annie Brook had a contract with these so called therapist that she will find clients for them. They paid her money for this. It started to make sense for me why I received the scholarship and why Annie so badly wanted me to do the sessions with these so called therapist. She needed to hook me in order to have somebody for her so called therapist. Annie just forgot to inform me about this fact and about what it all is about. Meanwhile Annie Brook wanted me to get in contact with a second therapist. I wanted to do what Annie Brook said because she was so kind and offered me the scholarship. This lady sent all my e-mails as copy to Annie Brook. I asked her after this and she could have not explain it. The therapist told me that she is not licensed, not registered therapist, she can only work as a coach. I asked her whether it is not unethical when she is with me in the same online course (she has just started as me) and when I am listening to her personal stories, seeing her family on video and she told me that it is not a problem for her. I asked her what kind of therapy modality it is Annie Brook uses as I have not noticed any somatic therapy approach so far. She could have not responded to me and she became visibly angry. She told me suddenly in a way that was more like a threatening me that if I I will want to commit a suicide or kill an elder (not sure where she had found an elder for me), she will be obligated to contact police ((despite she was a coach). Police in the US ? I live in far far eastern countries and I have never been to the US nor do I sadly understand the "online courses industry" there. Here was again the attempt to try to talk me into suicide. Repeating again and again that I want apparently commit a suicide, especially when I am physically sick, can lead to implanting these thoughts into brain and cause a brain traumatic injury. It could as well lead to the thought that the person will start to believe this implanted thought and actually do commit a suicide. Peter Levine speaks about it how harmful it is.

Nice explanation ! Well, I have sadly a bad experience. Very unsafe experience. I had been told that online courses of Annie Brook are the right thing for me because it is somatic, movement physical approach that I was searching for due to a physical impairment that was very well known to Annie Brook. I came there because of somatic physical issues in my body and made it very clear what I am searching for, in form of e-mails that Annie Brook read and many time in the private sessions with her and in the online course of her. I had been asking Annie Brook and her stuff what kind of therapy modality it is, it did not seem to me as somatic or movement physical approach. I received no answer. In reality, I experienced that there was no somatic therapy, but the approach was aimed at people with behavioral and mental troubles like suicide, depressions, substance abuse, personality disorders etc. The stuff of Annie Brook tried slowly but surely instead of this claimed somatic approach implant ideas into my mind: they just said in the online public course out of the blue that I apparently " I am self-attacking myself" and that " I shall not do this" etc. I have never heard such a phantasmagory before. I told them repeatedly that they don´t need to worry and that I do not have such problems. However, they di did not stop. Slowly the experience developed into being attacked for wanting to ask a question/ or share my experience as other participants were allowed. I was literally not allowed to participate in the online courses and I was ostracized from the group. It was publicly shared about me that " I have no money, so I can do some other online courses" and much more. Once I managed to bring up my experience of a sick heart that I had in the past (the participants were encouraged to watch a picture of heart, so I brought up what my body needed to), I was immediately shut down in an aggressive way that in that sense, it does not matter what I say or what my body had gone through, that now I am in this group and I shall be safe with them and mainly, I have to shut up. I wrote an e-mail about this incident to the woman who did it (she was apparently a therapist accordingly Annie Brook, but in reality, she was a hairdresser, no therapy license). This lady responded that she attacked me because she does not listen to me at all and thus she did not care what I was saying. It was obviously a general approach towards me. She also told me that she does not listen to me because " I am speaking fast". It is quite a lie, however, somebody who is incompetent while playing a therapist can do lots of iatrogen damage and does not want to admit it. So, this person will invent any kind of justification to tell the victim why the victim had been badly treated and that the victim deserves the bad treatment. Annie Brook was so kind and offered me a scholarship for her online course. I had found out that were many people with scholarships (including the people Annie Brook wanted me to work with them as with "therapists"). I have felt very grateful toward Annie Brook. Annie Brook had written me an e-mail that I can get the scholarship, but only if I will work with a therapist who she is training. I felt obligated to do so because Annie Brook was so kind to give me a scholarship price for her online courses. The experience with the first therapist was was not that good: It took her 6 weeks to schedule a session with me. She was constantly losing my e-mails or she had to prepare for Easter etc. Finally the session might have been helpful as this lady seem to be nice, however she needed to direct the question of my physical sorrow that I came with into implanting into me these words: " I am in double bind" . Double bind is seen as a way of miscommunication, usually with intention to manipulate the other. Usually people with personality disorders use this deliberate way of miscommunication. It was as well forcefully pushed on to me that apparently " I am as well in power struggle" etc. Not sure what it should have ment. I wanted my somatic approach, I wanted an attention to my body. I wrote to this lady that I have the feeling that she does not want to work with me because she had these troubles to schedule a session with me. She responded (this time immediately, no need to wait for weeks) that I am mistaken and that IT MUST BE SO HARD FOR ME TO FEEL THE FEELINGS OF OTHERS and being persuaded that I know that they feel these feelings even thought this is not really what she feels. Another phantasmagory. Or attempt of iatrogen damage by trying to mind control me or move into some mental disease ? I had never given Annie Brook nor anybody from her stuff a permission to play a therapist for me, not at all to try to invent some diagnosis or mental diseases about me. I had told and written to Annie Brook that I search for a somatic therapy. Annie Brook had also never revealed to me what she is going to do behind my back. Later, I found out that Annie Brook offers a program for therapist who she trains. That was in the time I paid her money. Later Annie Brook changed it that anybody can be this "trainee". A coach, a therapist that is not registered, not licensed (basically anybody). I had only the information by Annie Brook that she trains therapists and that once she will train them, she will let me know. To my surprise the first therapist was a lady who did the same online course just couple of months before me ! However, I was not told by Annie Brook that these so called therapists in training often have no education in psychology, possibly as well no experience with psychotherapy whatsoever and if, then very little experience. The more, these" therapists" were not somatic therapist. The have just done the same online course I did....and in that course there was no somatic therapy. Additionally, these "therapists" had to negotiate the price with the client. I did not know it that I would be subjected to this as I had made clear to Annie Brook that I actually do not search for any therapist, I am only searching for some somatic approach for my body and if there would be any PERSON EXPERIENCED in somatic approach, I could only pay the lowest price at this moment. Much later, I found out that Annie Brook had a contract with these so called therapist that she will find clients for them. They paid her money for this. It started to make sense for me why I received the scholarship and why Annie so badly wanted me to do the sessions with these so called therapist. She needed to hook me in order to have somebody for her so called therapist. Annie just forgot to inform me about this fact and about what it all is about. Meanwhile Annie Brook wanted me to get in contact with a second therapist. I wanted to do what Annie Brook said because she was so kind and offered me the scholarship. This lady sent all my e-mails as copy to Annie Brook. I asked her after this and she could have not explain it. The therapist told me that she is not licensed, not registered therapist, she can only work as a coach. I asked her whether it is not unethical when she is with me in the same online course (she has just started as me) and when I am listening to her personal stories, seeing her family on video and she told me that it is not a problem for her. I asked her what kind of therapy modality it is Annie Brook uses as I have not noticed any somatic therapy approach so far. She could have not responded to me and she became visibly angry. She told me suddenly in a way that was more like a threatening me that if I I will want to commit a suicide or kill an elder (not sure where she had found an elder for me), she will be obligated to contact police ((despite she was a coach). Police in the US ? I live in far far eastern countries and I have never been to the US nor do I sadly understand the "online courses industry" there. Here was again the attempt to try to talk me into suicide. Repeating again and again that I want apparently commit a suicide, especially when I am physically sick, can lead to implanting these thoughts into brain and cause a brain traumatic injury. It could as well lead to the thought that the person will start to believe this implanted thought and actually do commit a suicide. Peter Levine speaks about it how harmful it is.Nice explanation ! Well, I have sadly a very different experience. Very unsafe experience. I had been told that online courses of Annie Brook are the right thing for me because it is somatic, movement physical approach that I was searching for due to a physical impairment that was very well known to Annie Brook. I came there because of somatic physical issues in my body and made it very clear what I am searching for, in form of e-mails that Annie Brook read and many time in the private sessions with her and in the online course of her. I had been asking Annie Brook and her stuff what kind of therapy modality it is, it did not seem to me as somatic or movement physical approach. I received no answer. In reality, I experienced that there was no somatic therapy, but the approach was aimed at people with behavioral and mental troubles like suicide, depressions, substance abuse, personality disorders etc. The stuff of Annie Brook tried slowly but surely instead of this claimed somatic approach implant ideas into my mind: they just said in the online public course out of the blue that I apparently " I am self-attacking myself" and that " I shall not do this" etc. I have never heard such a phantasmagory before. I told them repeatedly that they don´t need to worry and that I do not have such problems. However, they di did not stop.

Everything you said is SPOT ON!! Its worst than Sad!! Its like a wound that Never Heals.😢😢😢😢

Thank you Debbie from the bottom of my heart , for writing this book. ❤

Why do you not post anymore? @debbiemarza

This has been such a hard decision for me to keep but I know it is the best thing I could ever do. On Christmas I was suppose to visit with my grand babies and they never picked up the phone to let me see them and I had to act like it did not bother me to not negatively react but that just it I have to act like it does not bother me, and this is the frame of mind they want me to act like nothing happens whenever they do stuff that I don't like and I am tired of all the games and the lies too, I been told stories in conversations, but I am not sure of any of it is true, it sounds good and it sounds like growth but in action it does not happen like that, they want me to pretend and not step on toes sort of speak to continue in the conversation act like what I am dealing with did not happen

hi I am Sherell, viewing you living in Seattle Washington, their is a pattern of this continued behavior between my and my adult daughters that has been used as pawns against me from their abusive father who consistently stay in touch for the wrong reasons and they don't seem to see that and so their this friction between me as the original mother and them, their is more people involved also and I feel like the abusive father uses them, they have seen us in domestic violence that encourages them to be disrespectful towards me now before I can understand I was a victim then but not now and so many years and so, the abuse keeps happening through my adult daughters because I deal with a spirit of control and using their kids as pawns concerning visitation and this is what I used is ultimatum in them choosing to heal on a healing journey that they keep refusing but they use their kids as pawns playing with my head and so I want to involve a mediator and also a therapist to expose those game that they play and no one want to get help, they pass the blame don't take responsibility and act a victim so my insanity is taken in consideration here because whenever I call them their tone is bothered and angry all the time so I know that their is more than meets the eye is why I challenge to get help but they don't want that I chose not to be in relationship continuing the abuse and misuse and the spirit of control, I want to free and not have to play that dangerous game that they like to play,

What if a narcissistic step father makes you the scapegoat of the family because you were the only one who tried to call out his abusive behavior? I'm 40 years now, couldn't escape from that situation until I moved to another country and my mom supported me to get here and make my life, but I'm still struggling because she enabled him so bad there was always fights, yellings and I'd be blamed often for him getting angrier, because I defended myself. So many family reunions, Christmas and party events, ruined because of their fights and drinking. 😣

Just from watching these videos alone, I can tell how much love and empathy radiates from you. It’s so great to see! About to read your book since I suffer from the aftermath of CPTSD and a covert narcissistic person in my family.

Yup always thinking about crazy shit because of similar not all the same but its whatever man people do it all the time

Thank you Debbie !!!! I just need some help or advice about narcissistic coworkers and boss. I am a Montessori teacher, and kindergarten Spanish and English coordinator in a school at Playa del Carmen Mexico, and the English teacher (but she didn't know how to speak and write in English) is a narcissist, and after 6 horrible months working with her this person finally quit (I felt so happy) but now she is talking badly about me with some parents and teachers from the school. During the past 6 months I really felt that I was going crazy, I even felt so devaluated. I have been teaching for 30 years, and I was really so sad and didn't want to go to work anymore. Now I feel good, the only thing is that this person won't stop... Do you know if there is a group that I can join to get some help? The academic principal is also a narcissist (obviously she is friend of the one who quit) I am dealing with her and watching videos to learn how to avoid her passive aggressions.

You will go insane, if you don't let a covert narc go especially if your intelligent because it becomes a quest I'm infj and I've literally found a way to manifest souls to rain down upon those of low vibration the irony is you have to be in total love and devotion to perform such a ceremony, hilarious 😇🙏❤️we can all agree their one massive pain in the arse, 😇

SO true that the silent treatment is absolute hell. Having grown up in a family where the whole street could hear him shouting, i would take that anyday over the silent treatment! My CN does the silent treatment all the time. Even though i know what it is now, i still hate it. But when he has had enough he can switch in a second. It is quite disturbing 😱

I think I understand the need to cocoon but I have abandonment issues from my childhood so I’m trying not to spiral about an old friend who says they don’t hang out anymore because they’re cocooning. I see them on social media having fun, going places and doing things with their new romantic partner - often things that we used to do together, or things we would do with our friend group. On one occasion we were at the same music festival but they made no attempt to meet up even though they were the one encouraging me to go (before their partner decided to join). Now I really only hear from them when their partner is out of town and suddenly they want to hang out again. I’m genuinely happy for them if they’re happy, but is that really cocooning for their mental health/recovery? Or do I need to face the fact that they never really cared about me and were using me all these years? I want to be supportive and patient but it smells off and is making me very sad and anxious.

After 33 years, I stopped giving him the fight he wants. Something snapped when he mocked me for grieving a much beloved pet because it interfered with his desire to take a walk. Suddenly I saw a child standing in front of me. Now I just laugh and mock his attempts to rattle me. Poor little boy. I wonder what he will do for fun now.

He used our daughter as a pawn. He has always used money as a bribe. Married 22 years ,, I had to leave. He never thought I would have the strength. I have been paying for it since. I love my freedom, but it came at a cost. My young adult daughter has now fallen into my old role. He controls everything with money, and you need me. And she believes it. I'm now the outsider. His father did this to his mother , when she left and now he has done it with us.

My ex/bm been using my child against me and this week been odd … she has my son call me back to back days when I was getting no contact from weeks on in. maybe because Valentine’s Day is next week. And she thinks I have a woman that I love or something like that idk why

Ty.....that's all me😮

I resonate. The only way is communicate with your children. Reconnect and give them a lot more time and clarity. I believe truth does come out. Teach them rationality.Its simple that they simply want to do everything against you.

I read your book in 2 days then re read it again it explained so much about the covert narc i encountered for only 6 months, but it was 6 months of pure hell im so glad i glad your book so i could understand what the heck happened to me the silent treatment he gave me was unbearable every part of the book was him and made sense especially the sex part 😢 thank you so much Debbie ❤ it has helped me so much

this is exactly how i feel rn... and have been feeling this way for almost a year now..... like i'm useless and there's nothing else for me anymore.....

The only thing worse is staying, the toxicity doesn’t do your kids any favors. Hope you got out.

5:52 It's just always about them. I had a medical problem a few years ago and went to the urgent care, then on to the emergency room. I told my covert narc that I was going out to run errands. I didn't really want to be in the e. r. alone, but I also knew if my covert narc came I wouldn't get the care I needed - he would be busy trying to get the attention of the staff in one way or another. I ended up driving myself home. Called the covert narc before I got home because I didn't want to deal with the explosion in person. Know that I chose the best option.

I was reading your book- which inspires me to actually make a video about narcissm. But you mentioned something that I also experienced.. after the narc abuse.. I got more in touch with my own body and intituion and I trust it to judge how I feel around other people. Its like this amazing gift was cultivated from this horrible experience. And Im grateful for it, also really enjoyed reading your work

Great video and congrats on your move!

The ex's father is like that and the ex behaved like that with me and I didn't understand the behavior because I didn't do anything to him. Now I understand why he was like that with me, he's a narcissist. Until now I didn't know what a narcissist was.

how do u even begin to wrap your head around the fact your own mother hates seeing u happy, wants u to stay sick, and doesnt want u strong....YOUR OWN MOTHER!!!!......total mind fuck.....and the ULTIMATE betrayal

Glad to run across this youtube. My daughter has totally discarded me. Her dad was like a cancer. He made me out to be the abuser. I didn't know what was going on for the longest time. Church, friends, his family, my daughters friends I knew well, my daughters husband and his family etc. he has infected with lies about me. He had a world with my daughter that I didn't even know about. He set me up by getting together with friends, family, with my daughter taking trips. He then would make it seem like he didn't know where I was or why I didn't go to various events. He made new memories with my daughter and has destroyed the good memories she and I had. My daughter even hates my family and I do not really know why. My husband imploded in the Pastors office and said I screened at him and scared him. He said to the Pastor I cussed his mom out and put her in the corner of our house with the lights off. I have known his mom for over 40 yrs. Why would I do that. But people believed him and look at me as if I am horrible. That is not what I am made of. His acting skills are very good. He lied as if he was drinking water. It has broken my heart but with therapy of mindfulness I am learning to evolve. Though I will always love my daughter it will be up to her to come back to see me. She was given free will given to all of us by God which she is in control of. This is a crime I cant prove and he has gotten away with it.

I brought your book Debbie you were chosen x I have health issues 2 years of a covert Narcissist after healing after a grandiose narcissist. Your book Is helping me heal and making me think I’m not insane. As everyone thought he was charming. He was a manipulator. It’s going to take time I have ordered your other self love book and I thank you dearly from the bottom of my heart. ❤love and light 😊I hope I can find myself again xx 😘